“Truth is simple, if it was complicated, everyone would understand it”
Though many systems of practice, of esoteric and occult thought exist, many metaphysical teaching of great value from which there is much to learn from, the core of true spirituality is very simple.
As a teacher once said “There are no spiritual thoughts or beliefs, true spirituality lies beyond thought and belief”.
And in this statement lies a great truth.
Because what you seek is always beyond thought, emotion and belief. The very nature of all that exists, including the finest level of creation, which are thoughts, spring from Source, Being or God as many may call it.
By seeing Being as the innermost nature of all things, including yourself, and as the thing from which all of manifested reality springs, you free yourself from the grasp of the world. You transcend it and are thus free to create and play within it without the burden of suffering.
“Does this action lead me closer to peace and freedom?” “Does this action lead me deeper into the now?”
Questions are an incredible tool. Above is only a small example of two questions that can lead you to great freedom within.
You can probe your subconscious by asking it various questions and waiting for the answer to spring up and show itself to you (in this particular case you can also visualize yourself doing the action you are unsure about and then feeling in your body and through you mind whether this action does lead you to greater freedom, peace and general relief – and thus deeper into the present moment)
By doing so, your subconscious mind will show you and tell you what the right action is and in the case with the two questions above – what action you need to take that will lead to its further dissolution. And remember, the more of the past and future related conditioned programming from the mind you dissolve, the more freedom you will find.
These two simple questions, when applied often and in an honest introspective way, while the answers are heeded and not ignored (to the best of your ability), can create a dramatic impact and change your life.
Try it out and tell me how it worked for you in the comments below.
Unconditionally accepting yourself means allowing yourself to be as you are. It means allowing and embracing your inner state (your thoughts, feelings, pictures, bodily sensations…), your image of yourself and your body.
To have self-acceptance, one must first have self-awareness. Since you cannot accept what you aren’t even aware of, it’s important to first become conscious of what’s happening inside you, on a physical, emotional, mental and spiritual level.
It is easier to become more and more conscious of yourself if you practice embracing anything that comes up into your awareness.
Indeed, one of the main reasons many people can’t feel their emotions, feel cut of from
their body or any other part of their experience is lack of acceptance and with it an innate resistance and urge to repress every part of themselves that they feel is wrong, bad, or just doesn’t fit into their idea of who they think they are.
As long as you reject a part of you, your awareness can never grow – in fact it shrinks. Since you cannot bear to look at this particular part of yourself, you will only remain conscious of that which you can accept and allow to be as it is.
To resist yourself and your inner world, is to suffer – and since your relationship to others is very often a direct reflection of the relationship you have with yourself, it also usually means to unconsciously inflict suffering on the world.
The more of yourself you resist, the more you feel blank and empty inside, until finally you can’t feel anything anymore – this is often where most people turn to outer stimulation to keep the feeling of aliveness they’ve lost inside.
Food, drugs, alcohol, violence or constant outer stimulation (like watching TV for hours every day), become your escape, your means to avoid your internal world and yourself. This often leads to more resistance, self-hatred and the feeling of »deadness« inside, which can then further manifest as a physical problems (i.e. a disease) or as an unfavorable external event that you would usually perceive as negative.
Life presents us with many challenges, both internal and external. From financial issues, relationship problems and ill health, external events may not always go our way. The same is true for the internal – emotions and thoughts can plague us and wreak havoc in our minds.
Because of this, our inner peace is often disturbed, but few people realise that the internal or external conditions of our experience are not the cause of our distress.
The cause is much simpler – resistance.
No matter what happens in the outside world or in your internal experience, your inner peace, joy and happiness can remain, unperturbed.
By allowing and accepting your outer circumstances as they are (which does not mean not-changing or improving them if that is appropriate, it simply implies an internal acceptance of your life situation) and by doing the same with your inner world (allowing your thoughts, emotions, sensations…to pass through you, as you offer no resistance to them and let go of any identification with them), you will find that there is something deeper, something vaster, something much more important than the relative experience of the changing phenomenal world – with a continuous practice of accepting and embracing life, you will find a deep sense of peace, tranquility and joy of beingthat comes from beyond the mind and is completely unaffected and undisturbed by anything you may experience both in an inner and outer form.
If you are feeling hopeless, sorry for yourself, lacking control and wishing that things are somehow going to get better, while secretly feeling angry at the world, god, the universe, destiny… or anything outside you that seems to have caused your disastrous situation, then it’s very likely you are playing the role of a victim. You are blaming others for your problems and thus keeping them in place by shying away from your own responsibility of them.
If you have found yourself in such a situation now, you feel sorry for yourself, nothing seems to work and a feeling of stuckness looms over your life – don’t worry about it. Do not resist the life situation that has been presented to you – resistance will only make it worse.
There is nothing wrong with feeling the way you do, so allow yourself to feel the way you are feeling. If you feel like you are the victim, if you feel that someone else is to blame and you even have logical, rational reasons to believe that way, then you have every right to feel the way you do.
But consider this – taking responsibility for your thoughts, emotions, actions and every part of your life means you have the ability to change it and take back the steering wheel.
The majority of people on Earth rarely appreciate or make use of one of the simplest things in life – the bodily process for oxygenating and sustaining the life in every cell of their body. Though this biological process (although far more than that in reality) seems so deceptively simple, it is one of the most powerful tools for healing, relaxation, bridging the gap and connecting the mind and body, as well as coming in contact with the deep sense of peace, well-being and joy that comes with clearing your mind and abiding in the now. Thus acting as a portal into the ever present Now, a portal into the present moment.
The power of breathing can at times seem almost magical, but you need to practice it consciously to feel its power and realize its potential.
It seems clear to many that this moment offers freedom, joy and peace.Staying in the present moment is an issue that occupies the minds of many that have felt this deep peace that only truly being present and aware can give you.
Yet how to remain rooted inside it?
Simply being in the Now, observing your surroundings, taking a few deep conscious breaths or listening to the sounds around you can center you and deepen your experience of life.
If you take your time to just be, without trying to get here or there and without trying to control this or that (including the past, which we all frequently lament or try to mentally fix and change in some way – to no avail, obviously) and just stay HERE for more than a few seconds of clock-time, a deep and profound stillness and spaciousness opens up, around you and inside you.
A feeling that you are home at last.
But then a familiar occurrence comes into play – the voices in your head, the thoughts and the pictures, sounds, emotions and bodily sensations associated to them start flying around and coming up from all corners. You were free… in bliss… for a moment … but then the mind came up with all guns blazing, telling you how awful you are, how your life is horrible, how you have things to do, problems to resolve and people to hate.
To most people, the word surrender means “giving up” and in general has a very negative connotation, mostly associated with defeat and failure.
Jesus on the cross, symbolizing the deepest surrender.
But true surrender, on a spiritual level, is an extremely positive action that frees you from the shackles of mind made resistance to the situation, place or person you are experiencing. It is the failure and defeat of the limited mind and the victory of the unconditional, deepest self that you are at your essence.
Spiritual surrender fundamentally means completely embracing and thus transcending your limited sense of self and with that all resistance associated with it.
It is the complete and total acceptance of a situation, person, place or thing that is currently present either only in your mind as a thought or picture connected to an emotional response or as an actual physical event unfolding in front of you (which is of course also always associated with a mental and emotional response – the physical event holds no meaning on its own until the mind gives it meaning and resists it, which is then the main cause of suffering).
“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion”
– The Dalai Lama
Compassion is an amazing thing. To be able to see the perspective of another and perceive the world from their point of view is a very important skill to have.
But compassion goes far beyond that, it is not really a skill, but a way of being and relating to other beings in the process.
What we see in the world right now is a tremendous lack of compassion. Humans at this moment, simply cannot relate to other beings and see them as someone that also seeks happiness and wants to avoid suffering. As a result of that we are creating a world full of anger and fear.
The first that is needed is compassion for ourselves. What this means is that we need to become aware of our suffering, the repressed hurtful emotions and tendencies that are outside of our current field of awareness, (because we have blocked them and thus narrowed our field of consciousness) usually buried in our subconscious or just on the edge of our conscious perception.
Since most people are not even aware they are suffering, they can hardly understand that others are suffering, or empathize with them.
Most people are simply in a state of blankness or resistance. They feel nothing, or at least very little – thus they cannot feel either happiness or suffering since they have desensitized themselves to both.
When we see and actually become aware that we are in a state of suffering, but have simply covered it up with resistance, we can finally engage our buried emotions, thoughts and inner wounds.
By becoming conscious of them and embracing them we can dissolve them and with that gain a deeper understanding of our own experience and the experience of all beings.
Here I’ve uploaded one of my favorite audio clips for letting go of all limiting emotions, beliefs, thoughts, pictures and sensations. Anything and everything blocking you from experience joy, peace, love and freedom, as well as clarity, peace of mind and boundless energy (and associated physical health)
The recording comes from one of my favorite courses on inner/spiritual growth that involves a very simple, but effective technique for ridding oneself of any and all limiting inner baggage – “The Sedona Method”, taught by Hale Dwoskin. This clip comes from the sister program of the method called “Beyond Letting Go”.
I have personally been using the Sedona Method and several programs related to it with great results for almost ten years now and I highly recommend them all.
Even this audio alone, if you listen to it repeatedly can be enough to rid yourself of an incredible amount of inner emotional turmoil and resistance to the freedom that always flows in this very moment.
I often enjoy going through this process on my own, by talking myself verbally or simply mentally through the whole process – so ultimately there is no audio required, it is simply an aid that can be useful to help you concentrate, learn this simple process and relax.
As you listen simply allow yourself to embrace whatever comes up. Questions that are being asked are simply there to guide you into becoming aware of various aspects of your inner pain and conditioning. As you become aware of these aspects (which are divided into three main categories – (1.) your thoughts/emotions/sensations, (2.) your wants and (3.) the feeling of the whole issue being personal, the sense of identification) simply allow yourself to embrace them and welcome them.
This will then allow you to integrate them or in other words, let them go.