The Art of Allowing and Accepting

Life presents us with many challenges, both internal and external. From financial issues, relationship problems and ill health, external events may not always go our way. The same is true for the internal – emotions and thoughts can plague us and wreak havoc in our minds.

Because of this, our inner peace is often disturbed, but few people realise that the internal or external conditions of our experience are not the cause of our distress.
The cause is much simpler – resistance.

No matter what happens in the allowing-accepting-flowing-flowoutside world or in your internal experience, your inner peace, joy and happiness can remain, unperturbed.
By allowing and accepting your outer circumstances as they are (which does not mean not-changing or improving them if that is appropriate, it simply implies an internal acceptance of your life situation) and by doing the same with your inner world (allowing your thoughts, emotions, sensations…to pass through you, as you offer no resistance to them and let go of any identification with them), you will find that there is something deeper, something vaster, something much more important than the relative experience of the changing phenomenal world – with a continuous practice of accepting and embracing life, you will find a deep sense of peace, tranquility and joy of being that comes from beyond the mind and is completely unaffected and undisturbed by anything you may experience both in an inner and outer form.

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Overcoming Victim Mentality and Taking Responsibility

When bad things are happening and you’re feeling hopeless, sorry for yourself, out of control and hoping that somehow things are going to get better, while secretly feeling angry at the world, god, the universe, destiny… or anything outside you that seems to have caused your disastrous situation, then it’s very likely you are playing the role of and feeling like a victim. You are blaming others for your problems and thus keeping them in place by shying away from your own responsibility of them.  Thus overcoming victim mentality and taking responsibility for your life is undoubtedly a matter of priority in your current situation.

If you are in such a situation right now, where you feel sorry for yourself in every way you can, can’t seem to make anything work and the feeling of being stuck looms over your life, don’t worry about it.

There is nothing wrong with feeling the way you do, so allow yourself to feel the way you are feeling. If you feel like you are the victim or someone else is to blame and you even have logical, rational reasons to believe that way, then you have every right to feel the way you do.

But consider this – taking responsibility for your thoughts, emotions, actions and every part of your life means you have the ability to change it and take back the steering wheel.

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Breathing – A Portal into the Present Moment

The majority of people on Earth rarely apprebreathing-presence-now-portal-spiritualityciate or make use of one of the simplest things in life –  the bodily process for oxygenating and sustaining the life in every cell of their body. Though this biological process (although far more than that in reality) seems so deceptively simple, it is one of the most powerful tools for healing, relaxation, bridging the gap and connecting the mind and body,  as well as coming in contact with the deep sense of peace, well-being and joy that comes with clearing your mind and abiding in the now. Thus acting as a portal into the ever present Now, a portal into the present moment.

The power of breathing can at times seem almost magical, but you need to practice it consciously to feel its power and realize its potential.

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Staying in the Present Moment

It seems clear to many that this moment offers freedom, joy and peace. Staying in the present moment is an issue that occupies the minds of many that have felt this deep peace that only truly being present and aware can give you.
Yet how to remain rooted inside it?

Simply being in the Now, observing your surroundings, taking a few deeconscious breaths or listening to the sounds around you can center you and deepen your experience of life.

If you take your time to just be, without trying to get here or there and without trying to control  this or that (including the past, which we all frequently lament or try to mentally fix and change in some way – to no avail, obviously) and just stay HERE for more than a few seconds of clock-time, a deep and profound stillness and spaciousness opens up, around you and inside you.

A feeling that you are home at last.

But then a familiar occurrence comes into play – the voices in your head, the thoughts and the pictures, sounds, emotions and bodily sensations associated to them start flying around and coming up from all corners. You were free… in bliss… for a moment … but then the mind came up with all guns blazing, telling you how awful you are, how your life is horrible, how you have things to do, problems to resolve and people to hate.

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Surrender

To most people, the word surrender means “giving up” and in general has a very negative connotation, mostly associated with defeat and failure.

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Jesus on the cross, symbolizing the deepest surrender.

But true surrender, on a spiritual level, is an extremely positive action that frees you from the shackles of mind made resistance to the situation, place or person you are experiencing. It is the failure and defeat of the limited mind and the victory of the unconditional, deepest self that you are at your essence.

Spiritual surrender fundamentally means completely embracing and thus transcending your limited sense of self and with that all resistance associated with it.

It is the complete and total acceptance of a situation, person, place or thing that is currently present either only in your mind as a thought or picture connected to an emotional response or as an actual physical event unfolding in front of you (which is of course also always associated with a mental and emotional response – the physical event holds no meaning on its own until the mind gives it meaning and resists it, which is then the main cause of suffering).

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Compassion

 

“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion”

– The Dalai Lama

Compassion is an amazing thing. To be able to see the perspective of another and perceive the world from their point of view is a very important skill to have.

But compassion goes far beyond that, it is not really a skill, but a way of being and relating to other beings in the process.

What we see in the world right now is a tremendous lack of compassion. Humans at this moment, simply cannot relate to other beings and see them as someone that also seeks happiness and wants to avoid suffering. As a result of that we are creating a world full of anger and fear.

The first that is needed is compassion for ourselves. What this means is that we need to become aware of our suffering, the repressed hurtful emotions and tendencies that are outside of our current field of awareness, (because we have blocked them and thus narrowed our field of consciousness) usually buried in our subconscious or just on the edge of our conscious perception.

Since most people are not even aware they are suffering, they can hardly understand that others are suffering, or empathize with them.

Most people are simply in a state of blankness or resistance. They feel nothing, or at least very little – thus they cannot feel either happiness or suffering since they have desensitized themselves to both.

When we see and actually become aware that we are in a state of suffering, but have simply covered it up with resistance, we can finally engage our buried emotions, thoughts and inner wounds.

By becoming conscious of them and embracing them we can dissolve them and with that gain a deeper understanding of our own experience and the experience of all beings.

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Triple Welcoming Process – The Sedona Method

Here I’ve uploaded one of my favorite audio clips for letting go of all limiting emotions, beliefs, thoughts, pictures and sensations. Anything and everything blocking you from experience joy, peace, love and freedom, as well as clarity, peace of mind and boundless energy (and associated physical health)

The recording comes from one of my favorite courses on inner/spiritual growth that involves a very simple, but effective technique for ridding oneself of any and all limiting inner baggage – “The Sedona Method”, taught by Hale Dwoskin. This clip comes from the sister program of the method called “Beyond Letting Go”.

I have personally been using the Sedona Method and several programs related to it with great results for almost ten years now and I highly recommend them all.

Even this audio alone, if you listen to it repeatedly can be enough to rid yourself of an incredible amount of inner emotional turmoil and resistance to the freedom that always flows in this very moment.

I often enjoy going through this process on my own, by talking myself verbally or simply mentally through the whole process – so ultimately there is no audio required, it is simply an aid that can be useful to help you concentrate, learn this simple process and relax.

As you listen simply allow yourself to embrace whatever comes up. Questions that are being asked are simply there to guide you into becoming aware of various aspects of your inner pain and conditioning. As you become aware of these aspects (which are divided into three main categories – (1.) your thoughts/emotions/sensations, (2.) your wants and (3.) the feeling of the whole issue being personal, the sense of identification) simply allow yourself to embrace them and welcome them.

This will then allow you to integrate them or in other words, let them go.

Enjoy 🙂

If you want, you can download this process by clicking here. (if you don’t get a direct download link, right click on the link and click “save as”/”save target as”)

Link to the official Sedona Method website:
http://www.sedona.com

Music for relaxation and meditation

Throughout my journey on the spiritual path, I’ve collected some of the best music to help you relax, meditate, bring peace to the mind and ultimately transcend it.
I’ve collected links of those songs I could find on YouTube and I’m posting them here for your enjoyment.

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